Sometimes, it is easier to make things worse than it is to make them better. You’d have no motivations to make an argument worse. So, you might want to do the opposite of the following.
Using their Past Against them
Using someone’s past against them is not at all constructive. It is in fact, destructive. No good can come from it as all you will be doing is pointing out the bad things that the person did. And that won’t put you in a better standing with them.
Using Silent Treatment or Guilt Tripping
Sometimes, you may fall out with someone and then want to give them the silent treatment. This stonewalling and guilt tripping is a very manipulative and toxic trait. It’s also a very immature way to handle a falling out. For the benefit of both sides, there should be open lines of communication.
Using their Insecurities Against them
If you end up in a tussle with a loved one, highlighting their insecurities will be very detrimental. This is one of those things that can terminate even a long relationship. In terms of romantic relationships in particular, you should do your very best to build your partner up, not tear them down. You have got to be your partner’s safe haven and they must be able to turn to you when they are unable to turn to others. Without this, the relationship will not be a healthy one. It’ll be burdensome. There won’t be any connection, meeting of the minds or vulnerability. And it is important to recognize that in a relationship, things won’t always be rosy. The situation won’t always be idea. You need to have someone who stands with you in times of adversity. You need to have someone who always has your back and has your best interests in mind at all times.
While there are obviously other things which would serve to dig a deeper hole by worsening an argument, these are just a few of the things which are absolutely not meant to occur and should be prevented at all costs by all parties involved.
